Homicide is a deliberate and vicious attack on another. The emotional wound to the bereaved is deep and may never heal or heal very slowly often due to a perceived or explicit social stigma. Forgiveness may be difficult to contemplate and may take a long time.
Thoughts of revenge, thinking it can assuage pain are common. Grief can be compounded due to the police investigation, the criminal justice system as well as news and media coverage or intrusions.
Assistance can help immensely. You might consider:
- Groups dedicated to loss due to homicide can assist in coping with feelings of fear, anger and the sense of helplessness.
- Find someone with whom you have the freedom to recount the story.
- A strong community support system is invaluable to healing.